Tag: Quote

Attention! Attention!! Opinions!!! Wherefore Art Thou?

Attention! Attention!! Opinions!!! Wherefore Art Thou?

So excited to announce… I started working on a new website to house my “Opinion” pieces, and decided to stop creating extra work especially as I have worked so hard and for so long here on this platform. I figured out how to create a second blog, by grouping the posts into two categories (Writing …

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“Free Will Is An Illusion.”

“Free Will Is An Illusion.”

Sit quietly. Take in a deep breath. Pause. Exhale while counting to eight. And meditate on these five words. “Free will is an illusion.” Do you have the power to radically accept that free will is an illusion? The majority of us believe they have free will.  I have returned to FREE WILL, Sam Harris’ …

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Boundaries are Protection

Boundaries are Protection

A reader responded to my previous post, “Believe Them the First Time” with the following: Hi Cressida, this post of yours speaks right to me. I’ve been struggling with forgiveness and giving someone another chance. Yet they keep repeating the same abusive behaviour. And the only peace I receive, protecting my well-being, is when I …

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Believe Them the First Time

Believe Them the First Time

I love this quote by Maya Angelou. “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” It deserves a page all on its own, to stand out from the crowd of words… Be observant when it comes to your world and of those that you permit to share it with. It’s so …

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Live, Breathe and Know Your Self Worth

Live, Breathe and Know Your Self Worth

Happy New Year! In wishing me a Happy New Year, someone very special asked: ‘What do you want to happen this year?’ Without thinking, I blurted, ‘Everyone special in my life to live, breathe and know their worth…’ Whilst I help someone close to me deal with debilitating depression, I have come to learn and …

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Happiness is single women without children

Happiness is single women without children

Recently, I stumbled upon Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics. His latest book, “Happy Ever After”, discusses happiness data surrounding relationships. Conclusion Single women might be healthier and happier than married women and married women with children.   Dolan’s research showed men in comparison benefited from marriage as …

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Singledom VS Coupledom

Singledom VS Coupledom

A close friend of mine in a long-term relationship has struggled over the years. The downs have been cataclysmic but then the highs have been soul-defining, she vulnerably expressed to me, openly sharing her emotions. Something I always admired about her and took pleasure in witnessing her bravery. How she naturally exposed herself, never worrying …

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Ah, look at all the lonely people

Ah, look at all the lonely people

A dearest friend living on his own in an exotic island intensely struggled through the lockdown. A lockdown more oppressive than the UK, but perhaps not as draconian as South Africa… This post is dedicated to people who believe they are alone, feel lonely; to help those discover their worth in a lonely world. The …

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The Golden Rule in Life

The Golden Rule in Life

The golden rule, according to many religions/cultures, is profoundly simple.   Christianity: “You shall love your neighbour as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.” (Gospel of Matthew 22, 36-40).   Buddhism: “Whatever is disagreeable to yourself, do not do unto others” (The Buddha, Udana-Varga 5.18).   In a famous …

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How little is needed to live a happy life!

How little is needed to live a happy life!

A New Year; a new decade; a year passed; another day; how are you choosing to spend your moments?   With time to kill, before meeting my writer friend, I browsed Oxfam books and picked up the first non-fiction book that caught my eye.   Meditations: The Spiritual Teachings by Marcus Aurelius.   Randomly, I …

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Lying is the royal road to chaos

Lying is the royal road to chaos

Someone I am close to recommended reading Lying by Sam Harris. It changed my life, she’d said. I am always ready for a life changer. Bring it on! A few hours later, I punched in my credit card details online and bought the book. Three days later it arrived. I waited for the right moment …

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When Things Fall Apart

When Things Fall Apart

A friend, who is 5 months pregnant, never thought she’d ever have a baby with the man she loved because of hard times, recently introduced me to Pema Chodron. Beloved Buddhist teacher, author, nun and mother, Pema Chodron has inspired millions of people from around the world who have been touched by her example and …

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Everyone’s Moral Duty to Kill Themselves

Everyone’s Moral Duty to Kill Themselves

It is not often I sit still and watch a TV series. I have so many things that require my attention, massive action and it hardly can happen while sitting in front of a TV screen with my feet up.   However, as recently as Friday evening, last night to be precise, I thought I’d …

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Are you courageous enough to reveal your true, vulnerable self?

Are you courageous enough to reveal your true, vulnerable self?

“I have found both freedom of loneliness and the safety from being understood, for those who understand us enslave something in us.” Kahlil Gibran It takes the utmost courage to reveal your true, vulnerable self to another. There are those brave enough to reveal, those that can accept and those that permit fear not to …

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