Tag: Cressida Pride

Is There Any Point to a Poor-Quality Relationship?

Is There Any Point to a Poor-Quality Relationship?

If everyone read “Lying”, a small book, an easy read written by Sam Harris, humanity would be in a better position to thrive.   This is a second post where I refer to “Lying”, one of the best non-fiction books I’ve read in my lifetime. Do yourself and everyone else a favour and read it! …

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Singledom VS Coupledom

Singledom VS Coupledom

A close friend of mine in a long-term relationship has struggled over the years. The downs have been cataclysmic but then the highs have been soul-defining, she vulnerably expressed to me, openly sharing her emotions. Something I always admired about her and took pleasure in witnessing her bravery. How she naturally exposed herself, never worrying …

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Sail your own boat

Sail your own boat

One of the dearest people in my life spent the weekend with me in London. A different London: feeling the sleepiness of the pandemic, wearing masks on public transport, in and out of shops and only being able to sit outside some restaurants and cafes.   While sipping oat milk cappuccinos at Pret in Leicester …

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Ah, look at all the lonely people

Ah, look at all the lonely people

A dearest friend living on his own in an exotic island intensely struggled through the lockdown. A lockdown more oppressive than the UK, but perhaps not as draconian as South Africa… This post is dedicated to people who believe they are alone, feel lonely; to help those discover their worth in a lonely world. The …

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The Golden Rule in Life

The Golden Rule in Life

The golden rule, according to many religions/cultures, is profoundly simple.   Christianity: “You shall love your neighbour as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.” (Gospel of Matthew 22, 36-40).   Buddhism: “Whatever is disagreeable to yourself, do not do unto others” (The Buddha, Udana-Varga 5.18).   In a famous …

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Codex Gigas

Codex Gigas

Someone close to me, living abroad, mentioned she’d been listening to a podcast on the Codex Gigas. The Codex Gigas? I asked. The Devil’s Bible. No, I admitted, I hadn’t heard of it.   What the devil are… the Dearest Devil’s Ten Commandments? She laughed. No, it’s not that sort of transcript. How disappointing, I …

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WHY DID YOU MARRY YOUR SPOUSE?

WHY DID YOU MARRY YOUR SPOUSE?

The state the world is in right now is perfect for self-reflection.   In the UK domestic abuse has increased. People have murdered their spouses and committed suicide due to the fear caused by COVID-19 pandemic.   Time for Truth!   Returning to a value I admire in others and embrace above anything else, I …

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I believe I have the right to…

I believe I have the right to…

I believe I have the right to think and say the wrong things. I believe your remedy for that should be to argue with me or to ignore me. And that I should have the same remedy for the wrong things that I believe you think.   I believe that you have the absolute right …

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Do You Know You’re in Love?

Do You Know You’re in Love?

The Angry Therapist on Psychology Today wrote an interesting article called This Is How You Know You’re in Love. I include a paragraph that made me sit up straighter and pay attention. Profound on many levels; however, so obviously simple at the same time.   There is a difference between feeling love for someone (caring …

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Never wrestle with a pig

Never wrestle with a pig

I think George Bernard Shaw has hit the nail on the head when it comes to other people’s bullshit…   I learned long ago, never to wrestle with a pig. You get dirty, and besides, the pig likes it.   There is absolutely no point, waste of time and energy, to engage in drama with …

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Have you tried to ‘fix’ another?

Have you tried to ‘fix’ another?

Something to ponder… How can anyone expect another to live a truthful life when they can’t be honest with themselves? Just because I choose to live authentically, openly and honestly, I can’t expect anyone else to do the same. Especially if it’s clear that they struggle to do so. Or choose not to. This would …

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How little is needed to live a happy life!

How little is needed to live a happy life!

A New Year; a new decade; a year passed; another day; how are you choosing to spend your moments?   With time to kill, before meeting my writer friend, I browsed Oxfam books and picked up the first non-fiction book that caught my eye.   Meditations: The Spiritual Teachings by Marcus Aurelius.   Randomly, I …

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Lying is the royal road to chaos

Lying is the royal road to chaos

Someone I am close to recommended reading Lying by Sam Harris. It changed my life, she’d said. I am always ready for a life changer. Bring it on! A few hours later, I punched in my credit card details online and bought the book. Three days later it arrived. I waited for the right moment …

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