Category: Psychology

A Personal Declaration on Proudly Being an Introvert

A Personal Declaration on Proudly Being an Introvert

Recently, I attended a dinner party. Due to social distancing, thank god!, there were only four of us.   Oh! Hold on a second… I am reminded of a quote I came across the other day, “To all the genuine introverts who still aren’t showing up even when all the social engagements have moved online…” …

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Sail your own boat

Sail your own boat

One of the dearest people in my life spent the weekend with me in London. A different London: feeling the sleepiness of the pandemic, wearing masks on public transport, in and out of shops and only being able to sit outside some restaurants and cafes.   While sipping oat milk cappuccinos at Pret in Leicester …

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Do You Know You’re in Love?

Do You Know You’re in Love?

The Angry Therapist on Psychology Today wrote an interesting article called This Is How You Know You’re in Love. I include a paragraph that made me sit up straighter and pay attention. Profound on many levels; however, so obviously simple at the same time.   There is a difference between feeling love for someone (caring …

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Lying is the royal road to chaos

Lying is the royal road to chaos

Someone I am close to recommended reading Lying by Sam Harris. It changed my life, she’d said. I am always ready for a life changer. Bring it on! A few hours later, I punched in my credit card details online and bought the book. Three days later it arrived. I waited for the right moment …

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I Am Not Who I Once Was: Who We Become after Trauma

I Am Not Who I Once Was: Who We Become after Trauma

 28th Post Challenge of 31 Most people find it difficult to accept someone else changing. I see it often amongst people I know and it’s sad to see how much it affects, even debilitates the one witnessing the evolution in the other. Elephant Journal has expressed this aptly, which I include an excerpt from, a …

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Me, Myself & I

Me, Myself & I

20th Post Challenge of 31   Hillel, a most influential Rabbi of all time, once upon a time said:   “If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But if I am only for myself, who am I? If not now, when?” Ethics of the Fathers, 1:14   I find this quote extremely …

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Intimacy & Sex Let’s Talk About It

Intimacy & Sex Let’s Talk About It

15th Post Challenge of 31   For men it’s all about intimacy and for women it’s all about sex, apparently, according to an article in The Times.   If we want different things, expecting to find it elsewhere, thinking the grass is greener, it becomes absolutely fruitless having affairs outside of marriage… It will eventually become …

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Anna Karenina Principle

Anna Karenina Principle

11thPost Challenge of 31  Percival, a friend of mine, mentioned the “Anna Karenina Principle” to me today. I recalled a distant memory of it being about respecting all criteria when it comes to a family being happy or unhappy. He then said to me, “All happy families are alike, Cressida, and each unhappy family is …

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Embrace Every Moment (in peace)

Embrace Every Moment (in peace)

No matter what happens – joy and sorrow – embrace it and accept it. Life happens; life is an experience, a constantly evolving series of moments. Leave the ‘out of your control’ moments to themselves. Trying to fight change, something inevitable causes suffering. Choose to accept or choose to suffer. There is so much in …

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Control

Control

  It makes me feel so sad when people can’t be there for others when it truly matters and all they do, choose to do, is act on their pain and suffering. And how they are unable to let go of control.   Perhaps the one being controlled needs to believe in themselves more…   …

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Letting go

Letting go

One of the hardest things to do is Let Go. I think it’s one of the bravest things to be able to do. The liberation that follows makes it worth it in the end.   “Incredible change happens in your life when you decide to take control of what you do have power over instead …

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Massive Action

Massive Action

“I wish someone told me this when I was young.” Morgan Freeman Recently, I discovered one of the best motivational videos ever listened to. Not that I’ve seen many but this one hit the spot, truly resonated. View it here: Best motivational video  Morgan Freeman’s dulcet tones begins with: “If you listen and take evasive action I can …

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A Lover Has No Choice

A Lover Has No Choice

“A lover knows only Humility; he has no choice.”   What a profound statement.   I heard it after digging out some chill-out music I’d last listened to more than six months ago.   Is it true, I wonder?   Selflessness. Does true selflessness exist?     A lover knows only humility, he has no …

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“…either road may lead him to his goal…”

“…either road may lead him to his goal…”

“It matters little whether a man takes the right road or the wrong one, provided only that he follows it sincerely and devotedly to the end, for either road may lead him to his goal.”   William Blake 1757-1827   How many people really have the ability to be decisive and follow a path that …

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“A lover knows only Humility…”

“A lover knows only Humility…”

“A lover knows only Humility; he has no choice.”   A profound statement!   I heard it after digging out some chill-out music I’d last listened to more than six months ago.   Is it true, I wonder?   Selflessness. Does true selflessness exist?   A lover knows only humility, he has no choice. He …

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