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Take The Interior Voyage

Take The Interior Voyage

This evening just before my last stint of writing, ending my day polishing another chapter of Goodbye Danny, getting it ready for publication, I realised I hadn’t listened to the Daily Stoic podcast in many weeks. I grab my iPhone, click on Spotify and search for today’s episode, 4 minutes, titled “Take The Interior Voyage” where …

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Tell Your Stories

Tell Your Stories

  “You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” – Anne Lamott   Anne Lamott’s quote stopped me in my writing drift… Who said that? Who is Anne Lamott? What else does she have to say for herself? What …

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It’s not all about blaming your parents

It’s not all about blaming your parents

Today in The Times Weekend supplement, following on from Prince Harry’s documentary on mental health, Jean-Claude Chalmet encourages men to “look on therapy as a gym workout for the mind…” In A man’s guide to therapy.   Another interesting fact – not just for men, rather for all those who struggle with a dysfunctional relationship …

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I Don’t Laugh Much Anymore

I Don’t Laugh Much Anymore

I cannot recall the last time I read Postsecret. After reading the below secret, I truly felt sad for a lot of women who come to realise, or perhaps not, they are simply fitting into society’s expectations and not understanding what it means to be their authentic selves and live in ways that celebrate what …

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Before You Judge My Life…

Before You Judge My Life…

I recently celebrated my birthday, as much as one could do while slowly escaping lockdown. Not that I ever found lockdown resembling a prison. It was what it was. Radical Acceptance: it’s become a mantra of mine. Thanks, Jenny! Resistance is futile when entertaining a fleeting digression… Lockdown is now on my mind. Oh, do …

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Charlie on the Hunt: Pixie

Charlie on the Hunt: Pixie

In no rush at all, while extra slowly emerging out of lockdown, and now working with the vulnerable, I am still diligently creating my third novel. “CHARLIE ON THE HUNT”. Each chapter is about a unique character. Only at the end does it all tie in…   An extract from PIXIE   Pixie felt instant attraction for …

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“Free Will Is An Illusion.”

“Free Will Is An Illusion.”

Sit quietly. Take in a deep breath. Pause. Exhale while counting to eight. And meditate on these five words. “Free will is an illusion.” Do you have the power to radically accept that free will is an illusion? The majority of us believe they have free will.  I have returned to FREE WILL, Sam Harris’ …

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Boundaries are Protection

Boundaries are Protection

A reader responded to my previous post, “Believe Them the First Time” with the following: Hi Cressida, this post of yours speaks right to me. I’ve been struggling with forgiveness and giving someone another chance. Yet they keep repeating the same abusive behaviour. And the only peace I receive, protecting my well-being, is when I …

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Believe Them the First Time

Believe Them the First Time

I love this quote by Maya Angelou. “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.” It deserves a page all on its own, to stand out from the crowd of words… Be observant when it comes to your world and of those that you permit to share it with. It’s so …

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Charlie on the Hunt: Scarlett

Charlie on the Hunt: Scarlett

I am still relishing lockdown. I managed to get the Pfizer vaccine earlier so that I may work with the vulnerable in a few weeks. While waiting to get stuck in, I’ve been keeping myself busy diligently creating my third novel. “CHARLIE ON THE HUNT.” Each chapter is about a different character and only at …

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Will You Marry Me? No. No. No. And…

Will You Marry Me? No. No. No. And…

Once Upon a Time… …There lived a princess. Some called her rotten, spoilt to the core. “A fucking spoilt princess!” The exact words spat; spittle almost landing on her cheek, once or twice. Mostly by those jealous of her and all that they accused her of: “Everything always falls into your lap!” Blah blah and …

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Women, Be More Selfish! That’s an Order

Women, Be More Selfish! That’s an Order

“Women, be more selfish!” I read to my partner from The Times Weekend newspaper insert this morning. Referencing “How to make lust last – the new rules for long-term relationships.” “It’s important for women to learn to be more self-centred.” Ping! ‘See!’ I exclaim. ‘I am not selfish enough. I’ve been ordered to…’ He turns …

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Choosing to birth while the world’s in chaos

Choosing to birth while the world’s in chaos

I feel sad for Mary, a close friend who recently gave birth to a son. Childbirth in the time of COVID, she cries. She wishes for others to be more aware of their choices and all the pros and cons before their lives change forever; change in unimaginable ways. And putting further strain on a …

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Self-Righteous Bitch!

Self-Righteous Bitch!

I cannot count the number of times, at school, work, by people I called friends at one stage, I have been called a “bossy bitch.” Sometimes it made me angry, and other times it made me laugh. I recall my mother calling me “wilful” and “bossy” from a young age. I had a mind of …

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Live, Breathe and Know Your Self Worth

Live, Breathe and Know Your Self Worth

Happy New Year! In wishing me a Happy New Year, someone very special asked: ‘What do you want to happen this year?’ Without thinking, I blurted, ‘Everyone special in my life to live, breathe and know their worth…’ Whilst I help someone close to me deal with debilitating depression, I have come to learn and …

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Happiness is single women without children

Happiness is single women without children

Recently, I stumbled upon Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics. His latest book, “Happy Ever After”, discusses happiness data surrounding relationships. Conclusion Single women might be healthier and happier than married women and married women with children.   Dolan’s research showed men in comparison benefited from marriage as …

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Charlie on the Hunt: Lola

Charlie on the Hunt: Lola

I am extremely fortunate to have escaped Tier 4 in London and ended up in Tier 2 before Boris stole Xmas… I’m still diligently creating my third novel. “CHARLIE ON THE HUNT.” Each chapter is about a different character and only at the end does it all tie in…   An extract from LOLA   …

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Empowered or Selfish?

Empowered or Selfish?

The woman has come to terms with her nature. Finally, she said it out loud. She expressed herself to someone close to her. Sitting up straighter, she took in a deep breath and exhaled just as deeply: ‘It has to be worth my while to have a man in my life.’ ‘Wow! I’m loving that,’ …

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Charlie On The Hunt: Bella

Charlie On The Hunt: Bella

During this second lockdown, I have been working hard on my third novel. “CHARLIE ON THE HUNT.” Each chapter is about a different character and only at the end does it all tie in… That’s all I am revealing for now.   An extract from BELLA   While clubbing, I spotted a girl I used …

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Champion of the Universe

Champion of the Universe

She phones him the moment she returns home, and explains, with a few huffs and puffs, how she endured twenty minutes in a busy café for her date to show up and then walked away.   ‘All men are only after one thing! And that’s to get into your brooks!’ he says, agitation evident in …

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A Personal Declaration on Proudly Being an Introvert

A Personal Declaration on Proudly Being an Introvert

Recently, I attended a dinner party. Due to social distancing, thank god!, there were only four of us.   Oh! Hold on a second… I am reminded of a quote I came across the other day, “To all the genuine introverts who still aren’t showing up even when all the social engagements have moved online…” …

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Is There Any Point to a Poor-Quality Relationship?

Is There Any Point to a Poor-Quality Relationship?

If everyone read “Lying”, a small book, an easy read written by Sam Harris, humanity would be in a better position to thrive.   This is a second post where I refer to “Lying”, one of the best non-fiction books I’ve read in my lifetime. Do yourself and everyone else a favour and read it! …

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Singledom VS Coupledom

Singledom VS Coupledom

A close friend of mine in a long-term relationship has struggled over the years. The downs have been cataclysmic but then the highs have been soul-defining, she vulnerably expressed to me, openly sharing her emotions. Something I always admired about her and took pleasure in witnessing her bravery. How she naturally exposed herself, never worrying …

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Sail your own boat

Sail your own boat

One of the dearest people in my life spent the weekend with me in London. A different London: feeling the sleepiness of the pandemic, wearing masks on public transport, in and out of shops and only being able to sit outside some restaurants and cafes.   While sipping oat milk cappuccinos at Pret in Leicester …

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Ah, look at all the lonely people

Ah, look at all the lonely people

A dearest friend living on his own in an exotic island intensely struggled through the lockdown. A lockdown more oppressive than the UK, but perhaps not as draconian as South Africa… This post is dedicated to people who believe they are alone, feel lonely; to help those discover their worth in a lonely world. The …

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The Golden Rule in Life

The Golden Rule in Life

The golden rule, according to many religions/cultures, is profoundly simple.   Christianity: “You shall love your neighbour as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.” (Gospel of Matthew 22, 36-40).   Buddhism: “Whatever is disagreeable to yourself, do not do unto others” (The Buddha, Udana-Varga 5.18).   In a famous …

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