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Self-Righteous Bitch!

Self-Righteous Bitch!

I cannot count the number of times, at school, work, by people I called friends at one stage, I have been called a “bossy bitch.” Sometimes it made me angry, and other times it made me laugh. I recall my mother calling me “wilful” and “bossy” from a young age. I had a mind of …

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Live, Breathe and Know Your Self Worth

Live, Breathe and Know Your Self Worth

Happy New Year! In wishing me a Happy New Year, someone very special asked: ‘What do you want to happen this year?’ Without thinking, I blurted, ‘Everyone special in my life to live, breathe and know their worth…’ Whilst I help someone close to me deal with debilitating depression, I have come to learn and …

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Happiness is single women without children

Happiness is single women without children

Recently, I stumbled upon Paul Dolan, a professor of behavioural science at the London School of Economics. His latest book, “Happy Ever After”, discusses happiness data surrounding relationships. Conclusion Single women might be healthier and happier than married women and married women with children.   Dolan’s research showed men in comparison benefited from marriage as …

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Charlie on the Hunt: Lola

Charlie on the Hunt: Lola

I am extremely fortunate to have escaped Tier 4 in London and ended up in Tier 2 before Boris stole Xmas… I’m still diligently creating my third novel. “CHARLIE ON THE HUNT.” Each chapter is about a different character and only at the end does it all tie in…   An extract from LOLA   …

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Empowered or Selfish?

Empowered or Selfish?

The woman has come to terms with her nature. Finally, she said it out loud. She expressed herself to someone close to her. Sitting up straighter, she took in a deep breath and exhaled just as deeply: ‘It has to be worth my while to have a man in my life.’ ‘Wow! I’m loving that,’ …

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Charlie On The Hunt: Bella

Charlie On The Hunt: Bella

During this second lockdown, I have been working hard on my third novel. “CHARLIE ON THE HUNT.” Each chapter is about a different character and only at the end does it all tie in… That’s all I am revealing for now.   An extract from BELLA   While clubbing, I spotted a girl I used …

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Champion of the Universe

Champion of the Universe

She phones him the moment she returns home, and explains, with a few huffs and puffs, how she endured twenty minutes in a busy café for her date to show up and then walked away.   ‘All men are only after one thing! And that’s to get into your brooks!’ he says, agitation evident in …

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A Personal Declaration on Proudly Being an Introvert

A Personal Declaration on Proudly Being an Introvert

Recently, I attended a dinner party. Due to social distancing, thank god!, there were only four of us.   Oh! Hold on a second… I am reminded of a quote I came across the other day, “To all the genuine introverts who still aren’t showing up even when all the social engagements have moved online…” …

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Is There Any Point to a Poor-Quality Relationship?

Is There Any Point to a Poor-Quality Relationship?

If everyone read “Lying”, a small book, an easy read written by Sam Harris, humanity would be in a better position to thrive.   This is a second post where I refer to “Lying”, one of the best non-fiction books I’ve read in my lifetime. Do yourself and everyone else a favour and read it! …

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Singledom VS Coupledom

Singledom VS Coupledom

A close friend of mine in a long-term relationship has struggled over the years. The downs have been cataclysmic but then the highs have been soul-defining, she vulnerably expressed to me, openly sharing her emotions. Something I always admired about her and took pleasure in witnessing her bravery. How she naturally exposed herself, never worrying …

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Sail your own boat

Sail your own boat

One of the dearest people in my life spent the weekend with me in London. A different London: feeling the sleepiness of the pandemic, wearing masks on public transport, in and out of shops and only being able to sit outside some restaurants and cafes.   While sipping oat milk cappuccinos at Pret in Leicester …

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Ah, look at all the lonely people

Ah, look at all the lonely people

A dearest friend living on his own in an exotic island intensely struggled through the lockdown. A lockdown more oppressive than the UK, but perhaps not as draconian as South Africa… This post is dedicated to people who believe they are alone, feel lonely; to help those discover their worth in a lonely world. The …

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The Golden Rule in Life

The Golden Rule in Life

The golden rule, according to many religions/cultures, is profoundly simple.   Christianity: “You shall love your neighbour as yourself. On these two commandments depend all the Law and the Prophets.” (Gospel of Matthew 22, 36-40).   Buddhism: “Whatever is disagreeable to yourself, do not do unto others” (The Buddha, Udana-Varga 5.18).   In a famous …

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Codex Gigas

Codex Gigas

Someone close to me, living abroad, mentioned she’d been listening to a podcast on the Codex Gigas. The Codex Gigas? I asked. The Devil’s Bible. No, I admitted, I hadn’t heard of it.   What the devil are… the Dearest Devil’s Ten Commandments? She laughed. No, it’s not that sort of transcript. How disappointing, I …

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