Women, Be More Selfish! That’s an Order

Women, Be More Selfish! That’s an Order

“Women, be more selfish!” I read to my partner from The Times Weekend newspaper insert this morning. Referencing “How to make lust last – the new rules for long-term relationships.”

“It’s important for women to learn to be more self-centred.” Ping!

‘See!’ I exclaim. ‘I am not selfish enough. I’ve been ordered to…’

He turns to me, lowers the main paper, glares at me and says, ‘Is it possible for you to be any more selfish?’ He grins.

Ha! Now he’s talking. (Thank goodness for the grin, right?) Let me check if there are any tips I’m missing… Moving on swiftly…

An article later, he says, ‘Maybe this will be you one day when you publish your novels… He reads it to me: “She has, however, stepped away from Made In Chelsea for good. “I think I want to start being a little less self-centred. Reality TV is great, but it’s all about you and what you’re going through. I don’t see it bringing a change in the world in the way I hope this documentary can…”

Ha! I roared. At least I don’t pretend to be something I’m not. A rabbi yesterday afternoon spoke about how naturally people are selfish; everything is all viewed from our perspective and biases and etc.

We weren’t always selfish, as Steve Taylor discusses in An Alternative View of Human Nature

‘…It is important to remember that in the prehistoric era, the world was very sparsely populated. As a result, it is likely that there was an abundance of resources for hunter-gatherer groups. According to some estimates, around 15,000 years ago, the population of Europe was only 29,000, and the population of the whole world was no more than half a million. With such small population densities, it seems unlikely that prehistoric hunter-gatherer groups had to compete against each other for access to resources, or had any need to develop ruthlessness and competitiveness or to go to war. (In fact, this is illustrated by the evidence for a long period of “prehistoric peace,” as I have discussed in a previous blog.)…’

Perhaps I am honest about who I am, simply living true to my nature, fully aware and doing all I can to change my wicked ways, one selfish, oops, I mean, selfless act at a time, of course.

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