When Things Fall Apart

When Things Fall Apart

A friend, who is 5 months pregnant, never thought she’d ever have a baby with the man she loved because of hard times, recently introduced me to Pema Chodron.

Beloved Buddhist teacher, author, nun and mother, Pema Chodron has inspired millions of people from around the world who have been touched by her example and message of practising peace in these turbulent times.

Her very first book, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times is a collection of talks she gave between 1987 and 1994, the book is a treasury of wisdom for going on living when we are overcome by pain and difficulties. Chödrön discusses:

• Using painful emotions to cultivate wisdom, compassion, and courage
• Communicating to encourage others to open up rather than shut down
• Practices for reversing habitual patterns
• Methods for working with chaotic situations
• Ways for creating effective social action

The below quote is for another friend who is experiencing hard times in a foreign country, trying his best to survive and rise above dishonesty.

“Things falling apart is a kind of testing and also a kind of healing. We think the point is to pass the test or to overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy.”

One Reply to “When Things Fall Apart”

  1. Dear Cressida,
    How thoughtful and kind of you to send me this message. Living within a different culture and working in a foreign country has many positives. Currently I have little space to make room for the consequences of others inaction and action but I will make that space to live and enjoy. I need to be the real me.

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